Last week I blogged about the challenges that a blended family faces, and one of the issues that we have come up against in the past is spending time together-- just the five of us-- doing something that we can all enjoy. It may sound simple, but really it isn't. Trust me. Here's why:
- The age gap between the boy-os and the princess is just enough so that they have absolutely nothing in common. Unavoidable.
- I share joint custody of the boy-os with their father, so they are only here roughly half the time. Unavoidable.
- The princess is a teenager. That equals friends, a boyfriend, a job, a team sport, and lots of time in her bedroom. Understandable.
- The princess periodically spends time at her mom's house. Unavoidable.
- Asian husband and I can sometimes be selfish with our time together-- being newly married and all. Understandable, but can probably be adjusted.
Luckily, Asian husband and I instituted a plan of action to assist us in this family bonding endeavor. I call it the "do whatever we can whenever we can" plan or DWWCWWC. It can be pronounced dee-wick-wick, which makes it fun to say and by extension fun to execute. This very intricate and detailed plan requires a lot of forethought and careful organizing to ensure everything goes well. You should take notes.
- Target a time when all of the family has intentions of being home and available.
- Make plans.
This weekend we had ice cream at the local fro-yo place (which I guess would be frozen yogurt, not ice cream, but whatever), had lunch at the local pizzeria, and crashed a relative's community pool with an extra pool pass. (I was convinced that the Russian lifeguards were on to the fact that we were impostors, but for the sake of the dee-wick-wick plan, I was willing to take the chance.)
They all smiled. At the same time. And no one had a finger up his nose (Gage) or in his mouth (Pacey).